
Sometimes the smallest things in everyday life can lead to major conflicts - especially when it comes to your own four walls. This was the case for Sabine and Thomas, a couple who had been living together for years. They loved their flat, but recently things had gone awry - in the truest sense of the word.
It all started when Thomas wanted to paint the wall in the living room a bright red colour, while Sabine wanted a calm pastel blue. What began as a minor disagreement developed into a full-blown argument. Soon it was no longer just about the wall colour, but about the entire living space. "This flat just doesn't suit us anymore!" they were heard to say.
After a while, and a few conversations with friends, they realised that it wasn't the colour or the flat itself that was the problem, but the feeling that they needed a fresh start together. So they came up with the idea of changing homes.
A new home should not only offer space for both their opinions, but also for their shared dreams.
The house sale went surprisingly smoothly. They quickly found a new house that they both loved. The move brought a breath of fresh air into their relationship - and the question of the wall colour? They solved this very pragmatically: they each got their own wall to decorate.
Sometimes it's a small conflict that triggers big changes. And what began as an argument ultimately led to a home in which both could feel comfortable again - and that is ultimately the most important thing.
As estate agents, we are constantly confronted with conflicts and separations. We often act as psychologists and usually hear very different stories from both sides, which we try to resolve diplomatically. This is where our mediator training comes in very handy.
It is often the different search criteria of couples that can lead to disagreements. The decisive factor is what type of person you are: house or flat type? People often underestimate the work involved in and around a house if they have never lived in one before. This can quickly lead to disagreements.
Or, as you can see from this story, everyone has a different idea of how they want to design their new property.
A long-standing client, who I sold his flat to 2 years ago due to relationship problems, called me again recently. After selling his flat, he had bought a house with his long-term girlfriend, whom he had known for 20 years, put the proceeds of the sale into the house and after a year it turned out that they couldn't live together. Now there is a war of the roses, the bank calls in the loan and the house has to be sold as quickly as possible. Fortunately, a buyer was quickly found, a couple who immediately fell in love with the house on their first viewing.
The seller now rents a flat with a garden and stays alone with his dog. The tenancy agreement is now only in his name and he is currently fed up with relationships.
Well, as life goes!